Friday, April 30, 2010


This post is going to be very depressing.

My cousin died today. We weren't close. He was 17 years old, and actually related to me only by marriage. That doesn't make what happened to him any less tragic.

Michael drowned in the Choptank river trying to save a friend. His friend survived but he didn't. There was a large group of ignorant teenagers watching from the dock. Michael got within 15 feet or so from the dock and was crying out for help, and the on-lookers stared and laughed. They watched him drown. The group is in police custody now, but it's useless. The damage has been done. Can you imagine seeing people within feet of you as you're drowning? He broke water 3 different times, and it was all for nothing.

My cousin would have graduated in a few weeks. I haven't seen him in years. Actually, since I was 18 probably. I can't imagine being so cold and deranged to watch someone drown. I believe I would help ANYONE in that situation. I feel so terrible for Michael's mother and father and siblings. His whole family is torn up over this (obviously).

This is really hitting home for me because I have brought a child into this fucked up world. A world where no one does anything to help. Where they're so terrible and cold that they let a child be taken/drowned/hurt whatever. We've all seen those videos of people pretending to kidnap children in populated areas and no one does anything. How can we raise a child in this world without some trust in humanity? I swear I will always be that person that will look out for people. I will never let something bad within my knowledge happen to someone else. I will always do the right thing because I need to make sure that something like this will never happen to my child. We all need to reconsider our values because we really need to trust each other to look out for each other. What is this life for if we can't?


  1. This made me cry, it did. I wrote out a huge long comment and deleted it all. I tore my heart out and put it in a comment...but then I decided to reassemble myself. All I'll say is that if we can jump into a lake for a stranger (which I think we all agree--we would) we need to be willing to put ourselves in the way of harm for others in other ways too. We need to reach out to those around us. Those people who aren't in a literal lake but are drowning no less. We need to make sure we are not those disgusting people who stand back and make fun while those around us are losing their lives. Thank you for posting this, Jess.

  2. I'm so sorry for your loss :(

  3. I am very sorry to hear of this. Those people will be punished for what they allowed to happen. Our thoughts and prayers are with your entire family. Im sorry Jess.

  4. I am so sorry for your loss. I think a lot about what type of world we are living in. There are so many people out there that are completly inhuman. They can rape, murder and torture people and not think anything of it. Maybe the best we can hope for is that we and our children will be better then this. We can raise our kids to be kind, caring and to help others. I do no have kids yet but I know that when I do these are qualities that I will instill into them.

  5. I will be praying for you and your family. What a tradgedy! Sending you BIG hugs!

  6. Thats awful. I don't understand people anymore. Feel better about that at least your children would never be so calloused, you will raise them better than that.

  7. I'm sorry to hear this but I'm also glad that you shared this and sparked new thoughts and feelings in my heart. I could never be and never have been that "teenager that watched and laughs". I think the newer generations have become more selfish and less caring about other lives except for their own. I want to change this. I think it's time that this planet starts going uphill instead of the constant downhill that we cause.

    This is probably the third story I have read in the past week of a good samaritan dying because people just stood by. It sicks me to death but it strengthens my desire to fix this world.


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